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The More Things Change

Melanie Kirkbride
The Soft Road · The More Things Change, The More Some Things Stay The Same

Routine often gets a bad rap. A mark of a fixed life, stuck, boring, and same-same. And while this can be so, it’s not the whole story. Routine can also be the foundation for a progressive, evolving experience of life. Rather than holding us back, routines can be a source of personal growth that liberate us to adapt and enjoy the different rhythms of life going on around us.

If we always do things a certain way – sit in the same seat on the train, park the car in the same spot, use the same bike at the gym, grab the same place in class, buy coffee, lunch, from the same place – and find ourselves feeling put out if we cannot – then these routines do not support change and growth. Instead they foster rigidity. These “routines” can hold us back – stuck, shrinking – as ways of attempting to control our external environment. They can make us less open to the unexpected and fearful of change.

Establishing routines for personal practices that by their nature extend and expand us creates a very different effect. These routines strengthen us from the inside out. And, far from keeping us stuck, they liberate us by creating an inner stability and adaptability, empowering us to embrace different external environments and changing circumstances.

For me, these routines include a daily meditation practice, a period for reflection through the writing of morning pages, yoga, regular reading of material that inspires and enriches me, and periods of rest.

Routine here is powerful. The routine, regular, repeated doing, brings a personal rhythm to life wherever we are, whatever our endeavours. Routine is the thread of activities that are both familiar and that stretch us. And, interestingly, these supportive routines are portable, going with us wherever we go.

My own routines have built up over a number of years, step by step. It began with one thing, writing morning pages. Reflection is easy and enjoyable for me, and so it took root. Starting with one activity that extends and expands us, repeated and established as a personal routine, can make a big difference over time.

Let’s consciously examine the role routine plays in our life. When you know what to look for, it’s easier to separate out those routines that hold us back from those that support our growth. And we can then embrace new routines and begin.

Melanie Kirkbride is an exceptional coach and master teacher of Vedic meditation who works with people to empower them to unlock their potential and thrive. Email us to enquire about Melanie’s services, and to receive her Teachings.

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